A man with a project naturally would compel a woman who can sense his natural spontaneity, energy, and pleasure in what he is doing. A woman who cannot distinguish between a man with an authentic project and a fraud, fake, or forgery is inherently mis-wired. A woman loses her value not by how many authentic men with which she forges romantic connections. Her value remains neutral at this point. Her value plummets considerably when she allows herself to be usurped by a man with no project at all but rather a series of ruses, gimmicks, and ploys. Again, indicative of a fundamental mis-wiring.
A discussion of a past is of some interest in this regard. A woman who consistently attracts men engaged in compelling projects demonstrates her ability to select. She may well never find the man who is right for her, but learns from each man and develop her character (and his character) in doing so. A woman should thus be free and open to discuss the men in her past: of course, there is nothing to regret. Yet a woman with something to hide, something for which she feels shame, reveals a mis-wiring of instinct: her inability to select a man with a project.
Seduction involves positing oneself as a necessary intermediary between you and the other: their world has been transformed; their relation to objects has been affected by the intermediary that you constitute between the object of seduction. But there is an authentic and an inauthentic seduction. The former requires a man with a project, and is not premeditated and lacks fraud, ruses, and other manifestations of charlatanism. The latter originates from a man without power and authenticity: a man without a project. His conduct is characterized by fraud.
We should evaluate women by the men who seduce them.
A man of the pantheistic God of tragic indeterminacy does not engage in fraud. A man of God the father engages in nothing but fraud. Again: does a woman fall for fraudulent men?
Authentic men and women who fall for one another understand the tragic indeterminacy of the matter. They feel each other's energy and projects, and understand (feel, live) its contingency. A man or woman who embrace God the father will consider the seduced mode of being to be an original essence--the series of ruses and artifices which sustain the Relationship are necessary under their faith as any and all means justify the end, because, after all, it is God's predetermined will. From an evolutionary perspective, authentic forms of seduction give rise to greatness for both men and women; inauthentic modes of seduction drive us to lower and baser forms of a species.
