2897. The mother says to the boy: "If you take a nap, you will be a big boy, a real big boy." She did not say good boy--he was sick of being a good boy for his mother (unless he was wired beta). He takes his nap, schooled by her deceit.
2898. An American woman says: "Well, if you were a real man..." Read: "big boy." How many men fall for this?
2899. How many women see their dogs as proxies for men and see their 'training' their dogs as proxies for their 'Relationship building?'
2900. What is it for a woman to "crate train" a man? Office jobs, desk jobs (see Moraline's work on these subjects; I am referring to his work here) accomplish a good deal of this crate training. Next up is "obedience training," then, prepping for Westminster.
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Relationships: Catch and Keep
Yes, Moraline has covered all of this. Yes, we are indebted to his work. I am trying to build on it, and in doing so am relying on all of his work.
In other words, it is about the shelter and stability associated with raising a child. I don't blame them. Let them use their ways if this is their goal. But then they face the following: if this is true, their projects lack an authentic ethics. Their actions cannot be trusted, not due to their inherent dishonesty, but rather that the object of their ethics is the safety and well-being of the child (or to the satisfaction of the maternal instinct). All actions serve this goal, and this is where their morality arises. Again, all covered by Moraline years ago.
Rigor aside, I see Moraline's point. It is in their self interest, in the way they are wired. It is not for me.
In other words, it is about the shelter and stability associated with raising a child. I don't blame them. Let them use their ways if this is their goal. But then they face the following: if this is true, their projects lack an authentic ethics. Their actions cannot be trusted, not due to their inherent dishonesty, but rather that the object of their ethics is the safety and well-being of the child (or to the satisfaction of the maternal instinct). All actions serve this goal, and this is where their morality arises. Again, all covered by Moraline years ago.
Rigor aside, I see Moraline's point. It is in their self interest, in the way they are wired. It is not for me.
Catch Him and Keep Him, Part 2
Learn Who Christian Carter is
and Why He Provides the Best Online Dating Advice for Women.
Hi, it's Christian Carter here.
I wanted to take a minute and introduce myself and respond to the question you probably already have in your mind: “Who is Christian Carter?”
At heart I'm someone who is fascinated by human connection and the ways we as people interact.
A long time ago something incredible occurred to me after hearing a woman talk about the situation she was facing in her relationship with the man she was with.
As she was sharing her feelings and her story with me something suddenly clicked - I could tell that part of what was toughest for her was having NO IDEA what was going on with the man she was supposedly so close with… and she had ZERO confidence in knowing what to do about it and that things would work out.
One of the best pieces of wisdom I've discovered over the years after talking to thousands of different women in all kinds of situations and relationships is that while men are DIFFERENT and respond to different things than most women…
The things that are THE SAME about men and women are much more fundamental and important if you want finally understand and start doing what it is that will truly bring love and an incredible and lasting relationship into your life.
I'm talking, of course, about those things we all want and need to feel- like wanting to feel loved and appreciated, feeling respected, being desired, feeling free to be honest, and generally feeling like someone “gets you” and loves you no matter what.
Unfortunately, for many women these are the things that they aren't able to find a way to create and enjoy in their partnerships with men. Instead, there's a painful “disconnect” in one or more of these basic areas and they never really figure out what to do to address it in a permanent way.
I can help you “get” what's going on inside his mind and what TRIGGERS attraction AND those more long-term feelings and love.
That's why I want to let you know about a few of the proven ways I've helped women find and create amazing new connections with men… and turn any of their troubled relationships around quickly and easily.
Are there things about meeting or attracting men that feel like a constant source of frustration to you? Is your man distant and cold, or has he withdrawn his affection from you and you want to know why and more importantly. what you can do about it?
Right now, odds are you're looking to change at least something significant about how you interact with men, how they interact with you, or how your ongoing relationships tend to play out.
If so, I've got some great news for you.
If you're truly ready to start changing your love life for the better forever, and I mean TRULY READY, in that you're willing to stop doing what isn't working for you and wasting your time with the men and the relationships that don't give much of anything back to you (especially in the long run)… then I want you to know that I'm here to help.
But there's something you need to recognize first if you're going to create a big “shift” in your love life now-
If you haven't been able to make things work up until now, and you've probably done everything you could think of and have given all you have and more to trying to make things work- then it's time, once and for all, that you recognize that TRYING HARDER with more of the same is not going to help.
On the other hand, if you take the real-world secrets about what to DO and SAY with men and relationships that I'm going to show you… and you simply put them to good use, then you're immediately going to start seeing things differently as you start getting new RESULTS.
I'm excited for this moment where you take what I show you, and after using it you really and truly “learn” from it because you see and feel first hand how and why it works.
Why Should You Believe That I Can Help You?
My answer about why should you believe me - is that you SHOULDN'T just blindly believe me.
In fact, I would recommend that you approach my materials with a healthy skepticism, and a perspective that there should be proof of something before you truly “believe.”
That's why I want you to TRY what I have to show you before you make up your mind to believe me, and then decide if the results really are for you. That way you can discover the PROOF of how my programs will work for you on your own.
I think you'll find that I'm not interested in things that don't work. I'm not interested in things that will hurt EITHER party in a relationship or give any person the “upper hand.”
I'm someone who believes in the power of love and human connection. When you can peel away the things that get in the way of love and finally “connect” to your partner so they can see and feel your love, and allow yourself to finally see and experience their love, it's at that moment that your relationship can grow or heal.
More of these truly intimate moments is what I'm going to show you how to create and share with the man in your life.
How do you think that would impact the quality of your love life and the kind of relationship you can share with a man?
I'll also help you understand the “male perspective” and show you how the male mind works - how attraction really works for a man, why he tends to withdraw when you get closer, and how the commitment process works for a man.
Nature has “wired” men with attraction mechanisms that work differently than they do for women. I can help you “get” what's going on inside his mind, what TRIGGERS attraction AND those more “long-term feelings”.
All that to say that I don't expect you to just take my word on something as important as your love life. All I expect is that if you're truly ready for something better that you to simply be willing to TRY the real-world tips and how-to's that have already helped other women like you.
And now… before I tell you about my different programs… you should know that every program of mine comes with a genuine no-risk guarantee.
I will let you go through any program or book you want, learn everything in it and if you do not like it, return it within 30 days for a no hassle refund.
If you don't get what you're looking for, then just send it back to me and I will give you your money back. It's that simple. (And isn't that the way things should be anyways!?)
I'm a person, and as a person and a man I have my flaws. And my programs aren't for every single woman in the world. But I do believe that my programs are the best in the world on this important area of your life and I stand behind everything in them.
I honestly strive to share a lifetimes worth of wisdom and for you to look back at your decision to try my materials as something you wish you would have done years earlier and recommend to all your girlfriends.
I'll talk with you again soon I hope, and best of luck in Life and Love.
Catch Him and Keep Him
How to master the secret language of men, create a connected and fulfilling, lasting Relationship. Create that Shift in your Relationship. Why Men Cheat.
http://www.catchhimandkeephim.com/
http://www.catchhimandkeephim.com/
Friday, March 25, 2011
Meaning, doing, freedom
It is widely accepted in contemporary literature (e.g., Chrome and Moraline, et alias) that aphorisms get the ball rolling.
243. There is a distinction to be made in forming one's ethics and creating an 'action plan' for the manipulation of others.
345. When I say, "Sally, I am not happy, it is over," I do not say this to get an 'effect' out of Sally. Rather, I mean: "Sally, I am not happy, it is over." I need to appeal to Sally the Other (from an ontological perspective) and not Sally "the woman" or Sally "the relationship."
401. Many philosophical problems arise from reification and hypostasis.
402. Questions of ethics must overcome ontology. We are magicians to other men and women; this is fascinating yet troubling. It is troubling from an ethical standpoint.
403. The human, who, having insight into the problem of ontology as it relates to the other, creates a systematic series of ruses, tricks, and deceits to work only with the object-side of the other is what one could call a 'dangerous' phenomenon for those seeking authentic projects. http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gif
404. There are as many men as there are women who take up the 'automobile dealer' approach to the other. Specifically, the goal is a sale, whether it be a fuck or a 'relationship,' and the means is a series of ruses and gimmicks. This human does not pursue authenticity. Rather than his or her being troubled by human ontology, rather than the challenge of an authentic relationship to, rather than with, another, the goal is the series of phenomena associated with the other-as-object. (Moraline has got his knickers in a twist over my set up of this problem--oh, he's calling me a Cartesian on the one hand, an over-sitting ontologist on the other, and worse, he perhaps has already characterized me as a 'tosser.')
420. Just as Freud had the 'human condition' backwards, just as Freud's attempt at phenomenological ontology was backwards, so too does an individual who seeks a 'Relationship." We shall designate this reification and hypostasis in the same way we designate 'personality.'
425. One cannot 'work on' a personality. One can work on an ethics, in pursuing a course of action, constant action which must be sustained. Outside of this constant pursuit, there is no ontological category of spontaneity which sustains a personality, which is an object, the opposite of spontaneity. Understand the difference between the term "object" and 'objective.' The former entails the thing connected to in a sight, sound, image, smell, etc., while the latter entails a series of plans, goals, activities, which purportedly result in one anticipated phenomenon. (Moraline is either amused, disgusted, confused, frustrated, or all the above, at this point. )
430. Human action--an ethics that has no objective. An ethics which embraces that, while we experience the other as object, we are dealing with an ontological category that is not an object, but rather exhibits the characteristics of spontaneity. If we pursue a 'project' of authenticity to, rather than with, ourselves, we pursue a constant action which does not build 'personalities' or 'habits' or any such reification and hypostasis. A personality would be the opposite of an attempt at authenticity.
431. A Relationship is the opposite of an attempt at an authentic relation to the other.
432. A man or a woman who intends to 'have' a relationship intends to possess an object. Such a man or a woman is not seeking an authentic relation to the other. Such a man or a woman has taken the automobile dealer approach to the other. It is inauthentic behavior, it is in Bad Faith.
433. Having purchased an automobile, it occurred to me that the vendor's attitude, my indirect feeling, highly prized an objective, an outcome, a Relationship. There was give and take, and he (or I?) sealed the deal. I do not dread the buying and selling of things. Labor is a brute fact. Yet labor and the buying and selling of things are not phenomena I study in order that I may work for an ethics. As part of my attempt at authenticity, I avoid, I work against, the auto dealer's attitude in my attempt at an authentic relationship to an other. Hence an individual who pursues a Relationship with an other exhibits an inauthentic attitude towards an other.
243. There is a distinction to be made in forming one's ethics and creating an 'action plan' for the manipulation of others.
345. When I say, "Sally, I am not happy, it is over," I do not say this to get an 'effect' out of Sally. Rather, I mean: "Sally, I am not happy, it is over." I need to appeal to Sally the Other (from an ontological perspective) and not Sally "the woman" or Sally "the relationship."
401. Many philosophical problems arise from reification and hypostasis.
402. Questions of ethics must overcome ontology. We are magicians to other men and women; this is fascinating yet troubling. It is troubling from an ethical standpoint.
403. The human, who, having insight into the problem of ontology as it relates to the other, creates a systematic series of ruses, tricks, and deceits to work only with the object-side of the other is what one could call a 'dangerous' phenomenon for those seeking authentic projects. http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gif
404. There are as many men as there are women who take up the 'automobile dealer' approach to the other. Specifically, the goal is a sale, whether it be a fuck or a 'relationship,' and the means is a series of ruses and gimmicks. This human does not pursue authenticity. Rather than his or her being troubled by human ontology, rather than the challenge of an authentic relationship to, rather than with, another, the goal is the series of phenomena associated with the other-as-object. (Moraline has got his knickers in a twist over my set up of this problem--oh, he's calling me a Cartesian on the one hand, an over-sitting ontologist on the other, and worse, he perhaps has already characterized me as a 'tosser.')
420. Just as Freud had the 'human condition' backwards, just as Freud's attempt at phenomenological ontology was backwards, so too does an individual who seeks a 'Relationship." We shall designate this reification and hypostasis in the same way we designate 'personality.'
425. One cannot 'work on' a personality. One can work on an ethics, in pursuing a course of action, constant action which must be sustained. Outside of this constant pursuit, there is no ontological category of spontaneity which sustains a personality, which is an object, the opposite of spontaneity. Understand the difference between the term "object" and 'objective.' The former entails the thing connected to in a sight, sound, image, smell, etc., while the latter entails a series of plans, goals, activities, which purportedly result in one anticipated phenomenon. (Moraline is either amused, disgusted, confused, frustrated, or all the above, at this point. )
430. Human action--an ethics that has no objective. An ethics which embraces that, while we experience the other as object, we are dealing with an ontological category that is not an object, but rather exhibits the characteristics of spontaneity. If we pursue a 'project' of authenticity to, rather than with, ourselves, we pursue a constant action which does not build 'personalities' or 'habits' or any such reification and hypostasis. A personality would be the opposite of an attempt at authenticity.
431. A Relationship is the opposite of an attempt at an authentic relation to the other.
432. A man or a woman who intends to 'have' a relationship intends to possess an object. Such a man or a woman is not seeking an authentic relation to the other. Such a man or a woman has taken the automobile dealer approach to the other. It is inauthentic behavior, it is in Bad Faith.
433. Having purchased an automobile, it occurred to me that the vendor's attitude, my indirect feeling, highly prized an objective, an outcome, a Relationship. There was give and take, and he (or I?) sealed the deal. I do not dread the buying and selling of things. Labor is a brute fact. Yet labor and the buying and selling of things are not phenomena I study in order that I may work for an ethics. As part of my attempt at authenticity, I avoid, I work against, the auto dealer's attitude in my attempt at an authentic relationship to an other. Hence an individual who pursues a Relationship with an other exhibits an inauthentic attitude towards an other.
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